Yeah, I got doubts and ridiculous thoughts when it comes to writing this post (and millions of other things), and that’s normal if it is not controlling your life. One of the most popular topics when it comes to personal development is growing self-esteem, which obviously tells us how insecure mankind is.
You have probably heard many times to follow your heart, but what if your heart is constantly running after emotionally unavailable people?
That guy is probably in an unhappy relationship, or always working, or is an addict, or he doesn’t have any explanation for being like that, he is “just” emotionally unavailable. I said “the guy” in the previous sentence, but it works vice versa. This issue touches both sexes.
This is surely not the first, nor the last post, about comfort zones, but it’s so common issue among us that I also want to write about it. It seems like this topic has never-ending urge to be solved, and I’m happy because of it (I have something to write about mwahaha! *evil laugh* JK!). Not happy because it’s hard to handle it, it’s because people are getting aware that changes can lead to better life, and we are all together waking up towards it.
I like to mention 3 types of zones before I start bitching about no life in comfort zones. Those are:
Concerned how all the people out there looking at you?
When you realize how much you are not important to the Universe…
(You’re going to fall into depression.)
You’re going to slowly understand whose opinion actually matters. Mostly is yours, and maybe from your partner, parents and occasionally friends (Why occasionally? Because sometimes people struggle with the definition of true friends.).
If I could call myself as an expert in certain field in personal development, it would be dr. Shyness. After so many years of being a voiceless invisible girl, avoiding the natural light, and social interactions, I can surely share some awareness when it comes to this common issue.
It was a sunny day, and my ass wasn’t giving a shit about it. I surely love sunny days, actually I adore them, but you know when you’re in your overthinking mode and dealing with loads of negative and stressful thoughts that you wouldn’t even notice a dog rubbing his tool into your revealed leg which you didn’t shave in months because you couldn’t bother with the basics of hygiene? Khm… I guess I got carried away with the description. Anyways, I think you know what I want to say.
I was heading to my therapist, not expecting much of a change or something. We were talking, hugging and touching (dirty minds, please not this time), and she touched my back. In that moment she said something that I didn’t care much about until I left the room and stepped outside…
When I was starting with this blog thing, I never thought that Taylor Swift would inspire me to write a post. There is that song constantly playing on the radio whenever I go, and I couldn’t resist watching the video on YouTube. There is that “call for sex” vibe in a whole song, in her defiant voice, in her video followed by skintight clothes and bathing in fake diamonds. The content is so perfect for the marketing philosophy, and young resentful humans, but that is not something that caught my attention as much as the lyrics.
Today I want to share my perception of criticism. One thing is for sure, you can’t avoid it, you can’t duck, you can’t hide from it. It’s simply big part of human’s nature and the connection between us.
We have constructive and deconstructive criticism, and something called praise. No matter how we call it, all of these three things are actually our, or somebody’s opinion. One more time, it’s another phrase for the opinion.