Get rid of the unnecessary burden in your life. I believe that the main issue over here is not being aware what is totally unnecessary in our living. The first step is a demisting bunch of old habits in order to do anything worthy of bragging to your friends and family. Khm… I mean anything that can bring you progress in your life. 😉
Yeah, I got doubts and ridiculous thoughts when it comes to writing this post (and millions of other things), and that’s normal if it is not controlling your life. One of the most popular topics when it comes to personal development is growing self-esteem, which obviously tells us how insecure mankind is.
Of course, I cleaned the floor, placed dishes, food, and clothes in their positions, took online research (both necessary and unnecessary), had a regular pity over myself and my work before I sat down to start writing this post.
You have probably heard many times to follow your heart, but what if your heart is constantly running after emotionally unavailable people?
That guy is probably in an unhappy relationship, or always working, or is an addict, or he doesn’t have any explanation for being like that, he is “just” emotionally unavailable. I said “the guy” in the previous sentence, but it works vice versa. This issue touches both sexes.
This is surely not the first, nor the last post, about comfort zones, but it’s so common issue among us that I also want to write about it. It seems like this topic has never-ending urge to be solved, and I’m happy because of it (I have something to write about mwahaha! *evil laugh* JK!). Not happy because it’s hard to handle it, it’s because people are getting aware that changes can lead to better life, and we are all together waking up towards it.
I like to mention 3 types of zones before I start bitching about no life in comfort zones. Those are:
Concerned how all the people out there looking at you?
When you realize how much you are not important to the Universe…
(You’re going to fall into depression.)
You’re going to slowly understand whose opinion actually matters. Mostly is yours, and maybe from your partner, parents and occasionally friends (Why occasionally? Because sometimes people struggle with the definition of true friends.).
Once again, I’m gonna talk about habits, but I’ll skip the definitions and how to build one because you can read about it in one of my older posts.
I guess you already read and watched tons of advice about forming a habit, so let’s take a look on the other side, meaning let’s take a look at myths of forming habits. Important to know if we want to take off some unnecessary pressure from our backs because we already have enough of our shit. ?
No better way of explaining something than telling my own stories, laughing at them and then shutting down this blog because of eternal humiliation. Kidding! You’re not that lucky. 😛
This morning, while I was slowly, and I mean really slowly… ok, ok… literally 3 hours slowly, ahhh, waking up, two stories from my childhood popped out in my head. I was thinking what did I learn from those embarrassing stories, and what kind of wisdom to share with my dear readers. I decided to tell you a story about me losing my pants in the public. The other story will wait for some other posts. Thank you for waiting!
Changes are good, but it’s rarely defined what kind of changes. We gave popularity to changing ourselves which sends a hidden message that our current personality and behavior suck. I’m not quite sure did I use the right term “current”. To be more precise, it’s not current, it’s always the same personality if we leave our masks or, should I say, not faking.
I dislike the trend of ignoring and suppressing the parts of ourselves hidden in our shadows. It takes so damn much energy to keep it clogged. And the funny thing is that we should focus on the positivity, but we are putting all the strength into clogging our unwanted parts. What do you think which side will win eventually?
If I could call myself as an expert in certain field in personal development, it would be dr. Shyness. After so many years of being a voiceless invisible girl, avoiding the natural light, and social interactions, I can surely share some awareness when it comes to this common issue.