When I was starting with this blog thing, I never thought that Taylor Swift would inspire me to write a post. There is that song constantly playing on the radio whenever I go, and I couldn’t resist watching the video on YouTube. There is that “call for sex” vibe in a whole song, in her defiant voice, in her video followed by skintight clothes and bathing in fake diamonds. The content is so perfect for the marketing philosophy, and young resentful humans, but that is not something that caught my attention as much as the lyrics.
I don’t mind this young girl named Taylor, but I noticed her need for attention. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe she really has bitterness within her, and she’s dedicating a big amount of her music to all the mean people from this cruel world, by being a pissed sexy victim. Maybe both thesis is true, maybe none.
The name of the song I’m talking about is Look what you made me do. Well, she said it all in the title, but let’s dig out more of it:
But I got smarter, I got harder in the nick of time
Honey, I rose up from the dead, I do it all the time
I’ve got a list of names and yours is in red, underlined
I check it once, then I check it twice, oh!
Ooh, look what you made me do
Before I continue with this subject, I have a comment on the first line. Girl, if you got smarter and harder you wouldn’t be obsessed by another little bump on the road. And you do it all the time? For me, that just says that you do the same thing over and over expecting a different result, and I don’t see a sign that this pattern might change. And his name is in red, underlined? Sounds like a call for revenge. Good luck with that one if it’s gonna help.
My opinion which is, if you ask me, a decent message to people who get stuck in hatred and victim mode: bumps on the road are not that important to constantly bitch about and lose all the nerves; repeating the same shit over and over is a sign of an inner misunderstanding; revenge never brings inner peace.
The main line which caught my attention is Ooh, look what you made me do. Seriously? This also reminds me of this song:
Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid
Because of who? Ahhh… The question of the post: who is the victim from this song? 🙂
There are plenty songs like these two, and I don’t like the type of messages that they send, but what can you do? Perhaps write a blog post and bitch about it. 😀
It wouldn’t be fair if I don’t admit my victim syndromes. When you think the whole world is against you, and you suck in all the misery from outer space… well, good morning, victim! I can thank my mentor and some brain cells of mine, who helped me to realize few things, such as:
Only you are responsible for your feelings!
The easiest thing you can do is to put the blame onto the other person. That person might be a trigger which could affect your flow of feelings, but only you have the main role how will they develop.
This is the simple, a bit exaggerated, an example where myself and my mentor caught me entering the victim mode:
M: They got me pissed!
A: Who got you what?
M: Ermmm… I got pissed because of their beliefs.
This correction might sound stupid and inessential, but it’s a product of the subconscious mind. Correcting yourself in simple statements, not like a parrot but really believing in what you say, makes your mind think differently.
So, this behavior comes from the anger, and anger is the emotional reaction to something that is threatening us or unreasonably induced by autosuggestion. It makes us feel helpless and creates a need to defend by violent behavior. Principally, anger causes many mental and physical issues to the person that is affected. It has been found, not just that is causing illnesses, anger is also causing a decrease in brain mass, which leads to faster weakening of intellectual ability.
Instead of running in the loop of anger and revenge, be willing to go face the cause of anger. If the cause is not solved, anger just repeats over and over. Think about it who or what is making you angry, when, how, why… Notice who is responsible for what. And the exit at the end is forgiveness to both sides.