It was a sunny day, and my ass wasn’t giving a shit about it. I surely love sunny days, actually I adore them, but you know when you’re in your overthinking mode and dealing with loads of negative and stressful thoughts that you wouldn’t even notice a dog rubbing his tool into your revealed leg which you didn’t shave in months because you couldn’t bother with the basics of hygiene? Khm… I guess I got carried away with the description. Anyways, I think you know what I want to say.
I was heading to my therapist, not expecting much of a change or something. We were talking, hugging and touching (dirty minds, please not this time), and she touched my back. In that moment she said something that I didn’t care much about until I left the room and stepped outside…
Here we are, once again, counting the last days of another year. Once again, masses are preparing for New Year’s resolution tradition which starts from the first day of the year and mainly lasts for two weeks. I wish I made this up, but that’s what happens in the most cases.
Anything that we put the focus on grows larger and becomes vivid. Anything under the focus receives the energy to live. That’s where our energy is. That’s why it is important to have awareness of where our thoughts are floating to.
To retain our focus on goals, we have to declutter our environment (such as our room, house, office…), and sometimes even people.
Is it a common thing, when you have a mess on your desk, that you feel demotivated to start your work? When you have to dig into your bunch of clutter, and you lose your precious time doing unnecessary things… And when negative people are constantly convincing you to give up your goals, because they look unrealistic to them, or those goals make them less successful compared to you… do you feel down, and demotivated?
If yes, read these few tips how to declutter that mess in your working place or room (if you have any mess, of course 🙂 ):
Search for the happiness is probably one of the most popular topics out there when it comes to self-growth. The term self-growth already contains the important word which is sometimes invisible to us. That word is called growth. Its visibility is determined by our endless hunger to reach the point where we can say “I did it!”, which should magically turn us into happy badasses.
Someone smart said “enjoy the process”, and “happiness/life is the journey, not the destination”, and loads of similar quotes floating on the internet webz. In some ways yes, but is it a journey?
Somewhere long time ago, I heard a belief that introverted person is not being able to lead, driven by the persuasion that introverts are hiding from the groups of people. That is something that I absolutely don’t agree with. There are a bunch of extremely famous and successful introverted leaders in the world, but it’s not something that press people would point out as life’s important facts. So, why would anyone bother how they behave in their closest and private circles, and what is even happening in their heads?
Today I want to share my perception of criticism. One thing is for sure, you can’t avoid it, you can’t duck, you can’t hide from it. It’s simply big part of human’s nature and the connection between us.
We have constructive and deconstructive criticism, and something called praise. No matter how we call it, all of these three things are actually our, or somebody’s opinion. One more time, it’s another phrase for the opinion.
No, I didn’t forget what I said in my last post. These brain cells of mine still work properly. 🙂 Flashback: I totally agree when people say “I don’t need someone to solve my problems”! So, let me share my conclusions, or what I noticed when it comes to choosing or dealing with psychotherapists or life coaches or mentors or whatever is popular nowadays. Down below are 3 things to be taken into consideration should you stay or should you go now… If you go, there will be trouble, and if you stay it will be double (side effects of listening to The Clash today – don’t mind this). Khm khm… now seriously, these are 3 things you should take into consideration when it comes to interaction with your therapist, life coach, mentor… you name it.
Like Aristotle once said “we are what we repeatedly do”, the great part of working on yourself is to deal with your habit – the usual way of thinking and the usual behavior or routine. I’ll start with the simplest introduction to the subject, and that is the definition of a habit. Habit is behavior which repeats automatically, usually etched in our subconscious mind. If you instinctively reach for a coffee the moment you wake up in the morning, you have a habit.
I approve self-development, and support individuals who are working on themselves, but that thing can easily go out of the control. I’m not even going to list down how you can easily get manipulated by self-called life-coaches and mentors with a blurry background, and with very little knowledge about human’s psyche, fulfilled with the bunch of marketing tricks and super-fast techniques which transform your life in minutes.