Here we are, once again, counting the last days of another year. Once again, masses are preparing for New Year’s resolution tradition which starts from the first day of the year and mainly lasts for two weeks. I wish I made this up, but that’s what happens in the most cases.
Anything that we put the focus on grows larger and becomes vivid. Anything under the focus receives the energy to live. That’s where our energy is. That’s why it is important to have awareness of where our thoughts are floating to.
It was a stressful period of my life many years ago. I could call it a period of chaos and a big loss. I was carrying my “I don’t care” mask, stealthily trying to hide the suffer and sorrow, followed by the unchosen belief that nonhappy emotions make you weak and ugly. I still didn’t know that it could cause much more grief within me, and I didn’t know how serious it could get if a human keeps every emotion inside, and tries to numb it or ignore it.
It’s not an irrelevant thing to put some time and feelings into the search for the right therapist. After all, you’re paying that person to guide you through the most sensitive conditions for you. If you feel like the therapies are not working for you, you should ask yourself what is the case: is it coming from you, from the therapist or both? Are your inner beliefs and assumptions limiting the whole process of development, and disturbing the connection between you and your therapist? Let’s start with the first question when searching for the right person.